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I think I've been on this page couple weeks now and confess it's better than doom scrolling:) It's actually my favorite thing right now, kind of a saving grace even. Yeah there's rage bait, but you can tell the real ones…. Earlier today I made a comment to someone with an emotional issue. Where it's someone that hasn't healed from abuse. I suffered abuse as a kid, but a nuanced type. Where my mother was grooming me to be her lover. At ten or eleven years old she once kissed me a kiss good night that made me dizzy. I was like whoa what—what was that? From there, never anything overt just unconscious because her father had done something to her—sins of parents onto kids…. In my comment here earlier I suggested reading Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller because it helped me heal (even if you don’t have emotional issues you ought to still read it because the info is tool to help make the world go round). In short: a narcissist is someone where, if feeling good, everyone around them is good; but if feeling bad, everyone around them is bad. This dynamic introduced into the parent/child relationship fractures the child’s self esteem and sets them on the same path the parent had been treading. Swatting or saying something mean to a five year old for just being a kid is what fractures self esteem. My mom was abused, but she remained unconscious; the above book woke me up to the fact that not only was I abused, but my parent was too. You sit with that however long you want, but immediately from there, healing begins. Self-esteem is the foundation of where we go from here in life, and I read that book and I’ve been happier ever since (and if the Admins read it, maybe make it a pinned post).